Anais Nin: “ They ceased to be three bodies. They became all mouths and fingers and tongues and senses. Their mouths sought another mouth, a nipple, a clitoris. They lay entangled, moving very slowly. They kissed until the kissing became a torture and the body grew restless. “
Experience the body part, ride the sounds
Go into eachother
Come out of eachother.
Be..
Let go
Take it deeper..
Ejaculating less frequently is not an option for most, because in mainstream sex, ejaculation equals orgasm. And that’s a very limiting belief that we have to work on.
“There's a lack of pleasure education," [Pamela Madsen] explained. "Teaching people how to touch is still not on the curriculum. There's now curriculum around inclusion and around consent, but we still haven't embraced pleasure as an important part of human development and health. That's the piece that scares the shit out of us: that we should like sex. I have 24-year-olds and 54-year-olds who are working on the same issues because they never learned how to have and give pleasure. We have to be willing to teach pleasure tools to young adults."
...our desire to know every detail about our partner's life provides us with a false sense of security. We think, If we were truly close, then he'd tell me everything. What actually happens is that you have all this data about your partner, but the facts don't necessarily give you true insight into him or her. Small gestures — liking someone's post, friending, responding or not responding — can take on a much bigger, unintended meaning...
“Eroticism at home requires active engagement and willful intent; It doesn't just happen. It requires that you create your own demarcation between pragmatism and pleasure and that you cultivate a space where a sense of intrigue and curiosity can emerge.” -Esther Perel
“Hear what female pleasure really sounds like by listening to orgasms recorded by women like you, who are willing to remove the taboos imposed by society and by ourselves.”
The wonderful Dr. Marty Klein on the rather neglected topic of male sexual health:
Don’t proceed to intercourse if you’re not ready. The reasons that men proceed to intercourse when they’re not ready include: fear of losing their erection; boredom with the erotic activities that precede intercourse; fear that the woman will change her mind; assumptions about what a woman wants.
Men commonly say to me, “If she needs to schedule me in like a chore, I can find plenty of women who are happy that their husband wants to have sex with them.” This anger comes from deep sadness and insecurity over feeling completely unwanted and like a burden to their wives. So, if these are all of the problems with scheduling sex, why do I still recommend it? The answer is that scheduling sex can look very different for different people. Samantha Rodman
Female sexual pleasure, rightly understood, is not just about sexuality, or just about pleasure. It serves, also, as a medium of female self-knowledge and hopefulness; female creativity and courage; female focus and initiative; female bliss and transcendence; and as medium of a sensibility that feels very much like freedom. To understand the vagina properly is to realize that it is not only coextensive with the female brain, but is also, essentially, part of the female soul. Maria Popova
~brain pickings~